This Blog is a Wholehearted PracticeThis blog is mostly just for fun. I’m not using it to make money or gain followers or sponsors. It’s very personal for me. This blog is a real-life wholehearted practice. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m a HUGE Brené Brown fan. I recently finished her second book: The Gifts of Imperfection. In this book, she outlines 10 guideposts for Wholehearted living.
Dr. Brown defines this as, “Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.”Her definition above is a BIG part of my spiritual journey. I’ve learned that the willingness to be vulnerable and put our true, authentic self out there is an important part of self-care. I’m going to be vulnerable in these blog posts. I’m going to share my story. I’m going to get real and deep. And that means opening myself up to criticism and judgement. But no matter what anyone says or thinks, at the end of the day, I’m going to practice self-love, self-compassion, and loving-kindness towards myself AND others – including the critics. Because people act on the outside the way they feel on the outside. And everything starts with us. If we truly want love and peace throughout the world, it HAS to start with us; our relationship with ourself, and our most personal relationships with family and friends. If we can’t obtain peace and love within ourselves and in our own families, how can we ever expect it to spread to our community and throughout the world? In other words, one must have inner peace before one can expect outer peace. Hatred doesn’t conquer hate. Only love can conquer hate. Judgement, criticism and shaming doesn’t create change (or help anyone). It only spreads more hate, fear, shame and toxicity. And hatred, fear and shame is a huge part of what’s creating so much stress, overwhelm, illness, including mental illness, stigma and is truly killing everyone. Only love, understanding, acceptance, compassion and empathy creates lasting change. Sharing our story and fighting for what we believe in from a place of love is what will change us – and the world. And I plan to use this blog (and my life) to spread as much love as possible. To focus more on being instead of doing. Because that’s what Wholehearted living and true joy is all about. Otherwise, what’s the point of anything?! It’s not about our to-do lists and our accomplishments. It’s about HOW we are thinking, speaking, acting, and treating ourselves and others on a daily basis. It’s about our connection with others. It’s about allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and authentic. It’s about loving ourselves through our shame, mistakes and imperfections. To believe that we are always worthy of love and belonging. Then and only then, once we’ve reached a place where we strive for self-love, self-compassion, and self-acceptance can we have the deep meaningful relationships we so desire, and abundantly spread that love to others. But again, it starts with us. According to her research, below are Dr. Brené Brown’s 10 Guideposts to cultivate Wholehearted living. Breathe it in. Soak it up. Read her books. And if you’d like, start this spiritual, love-filled journey with me to self-love. I’m not there yet. It’s a process. I’m practicing letting go of all the things that aren’t serving me (fear, scarcity, anxiety, hatred, anger, bitterness, resentment, isolation, avoidance, perfectionism, comparison, rumination and many of the things below). But I’m choosing this path of love, healing, and cultivating a wholehearted way of living every single day. And I hope you do, too.
- CULTIVATE AUTHENTICITY – LET GO OF WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU
- CULTIVATE SELF-COMPASSION – LET GO OF PERFECTIONISM
- CULTIVATE A RESILIENT SPIRIT – LET GO OF NUMBING AND POWERLESSNESS
- CULTIVATE GRATITUDE AND JOY – LET GO OF SCARCITY
- CULTIVATE INTUITION AND TRUSTING FAITH – LET GO OF THE NEED FOR CERTAINTY
- CULTIVATE CREATIVITY – LET GO OF COMPARISON
- CULTIVATE PLAY AND REST – LET GO OF EXHAUSTION AS A STATUS SYMBOL AND PRODUCTIVITY AS SELF-WORTH
- CULTIVATE CALM AND STILLNESS – LET GO OF ANXIETY AS A LIFESTYLE
- CULTIVATE MEANINGFUL WORK – LET GO OF SELF-DOUBT AND “SUPPOSED TO”
- CULTIVATE LAUGHTER, SONG, AND DANCE – LET GO OF BEING COOL AND “ALWAYS IN CONTROL”